Saturday, March 22, 2014

Get RADICAL Conference Experience -- Part 1

Attending Doreen Rainey's Get RADICAL women's conference in Reston, Virginia. Special guests include Laila Ali, Lori Greiner, Jean Chatzky, Teneshia Jackson Warner. This year's theme is The Heart of A Champion.

The agenda covers personal and business development, along with attaining financial independence and empowerment. In other words, a taste of all the tools needed to make the bold dreams, take the necessary courageous action and get those radical results.

And it sounded like the perfect boost I needed for all the things I want to accomplish in 2014 and beyond.

Yet, the minute I paid for the conference, I wondered if this was for me. I've been to similar empowerment conferences. Get fired up. Go home on the high. And by the next week, can't remember a thing, the buzz has fizzled, back to the same-ole-same-ole thing.

By the day before the conference arrived, I wondered if I should just not go. Who would care? But I had paid. It was practically in my backyard...didn't have to fly. However, I had to remind myself that there was a reason why this appealed to me in the first place. It wasn't something that suddenly popped into my head to do. I do believe that people a.k.a. guides and opportunities are placed in your path for a reason. So, why not just go.

Off I went to the conference flying solo. I didn't have any buddies who went with me. I wasn't going to join up with recently discovered friends, etc. But that doesn't really bother me. I'm not timid with being among strangers. By the time, I attended a workshop, I found myself mentally sitting in as a spectator. Really, I knew that I was watching outside of any emotional investment or engagement. Ladies in attendance were excited. They were writing notes. Nodding. Cheering on. Agreeing. And I did cheer along, clap, listen, but felt nothing more than that. I chalked it up to being tired.

Late in the evening, Doreen invited folks to her suite for an intimate Q&A. I went with no real expectation of anything. I think that I just wanted to let her know that I came to the conference. That she'd done a fantastic job, etc. And as I plan to hire her as my coach, I wanted to let her know that I was serious by attending.

By the end of a long night, I finally raised my hand. I wasn't even sure what I wanted to ask. But out of the blue, I shared that I wasn't engaged. The room was quiet. I was, why would you say that. You could have stayed silent. As I continued to explain what I meant and what I was feeling, Doreen understood. This wasn't a criticism of the conference.

Doreen was able to diagnose through tough questions that I'm at a place where I'm sitting on the fence, not wanting to feel vulnerable, so that if one more thing doesn't work, I can feel comforted that I wasn't fully in it, anyway. Her big question which I couldn't answer was what would it feel like to be engaged. As I struggled to answer, I knew that it wasn't a physical thing that had to be done to show engagement. Because I am attending the workshops, listening, cheering, etc. But the internal buy-in is what has to be turned on. She suspected that this wall to protect myself is up for more than this conference. Now is that the A-Ha moment that she's talking about a lot in the conference? And while we will attempt to bring this wall down for this event, I'm not altogether dissatisfied with it being in some parts of my life. This will definitely be a work in progress.

So far, it's been quite and illuminating evening. More to come this weekend.

1 comment:

  1. This is by far one of the best places to hang with friends, have great drinks (amazing beer selection), eat some great food, including the great lunch I had there.


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